According to a survey by the Bureau of Labor Statistics, 74% of careers end abruptly.

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This is due to layoffs, mergers, budget cuts and ageism.

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This happened to me three times in 20 years.

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I was doing a good job and BAM.

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My boss told me "I'm sorry but we have to let you go."

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My first emotion was shock.

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After a few days, anger and frustration set in.

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Then the anxiety tied my stomach in knots when I realized it's hard to find a job when you're over 55.

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Being a guy, of course I didn't ask for help.

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I kept my frustrations to myself.

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Being a certified coach, I tried to coach my way out of this.

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Looking back, here's what I should have done.

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Understanding Emotions (this is extremely hard for men)
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1. Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognize that feeling angry or anxious is a natural response to job loss or career transition.
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   Accepting these feelings as legitimate can be the first step towards managing them effectively.
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2. Identify Triggers: Reflect on what specifically triggers your anger or anxiety.
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   This could be related to feelings of inadequacy, frustration over job searching, or concerns about financial stability.
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   Understanding these triggers can help you prepare for and manage your reactions better.
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Coping Strategies

1. Practice Mindfulness and Breathing Techniques: Engaging in mindfulness practices such as meditation or deep breathing can significantly reduce feelings of anxiety and anger.
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   Techniques like box breathing—inhale for four counts, hold for four, exhale for four, and hold again for four—can help calm your mind.
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2. Develop Healthy Outlets: Physical activity, journaling, or creative hobbies can serve as excellent outlets for pent-up emotions.
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   Even 20 minutes of exercise releases endorphins, which can improve your mood and reduce stress levels.
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3. Talk It Out: Sharing your feelings with a trusted friend or family member can provide relief and perspective.
   It's not a sign of weakness to share your feelings.
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4. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Engage with supportive people who uplift you and encourage a positive outlook on life.
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   This network can help reinforce your self-esteem and provide encouragement during challenging times.
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5. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If feelings of anger and anxiety become overwhelming, consider speaking with a mental health professional.
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   Again, it's not a sign of weakness to ask for help.

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Many of my friends and colleagues are experiencing late-stage career loss.
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That's why I started Epic Encore, a community for thriving beyond career disruptions.
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Ted